I call my mother every Sunday at 5 PM. I have for twenty-two years. It's not an appointment — it's just what we do.
On the Sunday in question, she asked me about work, about my wife, about the kids. Then she said, in that offhand way people use when they're minimizing something, "I've been a little more tired than usual this winter. It's probably just the weather."
Eight words. "A little more tired than usual this winter." I almost moved past it. Everybody is a little more tired in January.
But then she said something else. She said, "Your father's been complaining about headaches when he wakes up. He's never had headaches before. We figure it's the change in barometric pressure."
Two people. Same house. Same new symptoms. Same winter.
I'm a commercial insurance broker. I spend my working life looking at risk patterns — the difference between a coincidence and a correlation. I hung up the phone that Sunday and I sat in my kitchen for a long time thinking about what my mother had just described without realizing she was describing it.
For three days I thought about calling her doctor. Then I thought about calling my father's cardiologist. Then I thought about making them an appointment with the neurologist my friend's wife had seen for her memory issues.
On Tuesday morning at 7:30 AM I did something different.
I called an HVAC technician.
I'll tell you why.
The house my parents live in was built in 1974. The furnace was replaced in 2009. The water heater is original to the house, which means it's fifty-one years old. There is an attached garage where my father still idles the car on cold mornings to warm it up. Every single source of carbon monoxide a home can have is present under their roof.
And I realized, sitting at my own kitchen table on Monday night, that in the thirty years I'd been visiting that house as an adult, I had never — not once — asked anyone whether the air my parents were breathing was actually safe.
I'd inspected their financial paperwork. I'd driven my mother to her dermatologist. I'd installed grab bars in the shower. I'd set up their Medicare Part D.
I had never asked whether the house itself was trying to hurt them.